Where Freedom Is Found
We’re living through a time where everything feels like… a lot.
Do you feel like you have a lot on your plate, you have to do a lot to keep up, and you have a whole lot of responsibilities that seem to be increasing right now?
I’ve felt that way, too.
It’s easy to get overwhelmed, especially when we have a vision we’re trying to create along with everything else.
A vision can feel so big and consequential, and when we barely feel equipped to manage what we already have on our plate, we end up putting it on the back burner.
As a coach, my objective is to help you create a life that’s easier, more fulfilling and enjoyable while you’re building your dreams.
Living your dream life isn’t about adding more and working harder, it’s about focusing and refining to make your life work better for you.
Today I’m going to help you identify the way overwhelm holds us back and show you how to refocus in order to move forward in a much more manageable way.
Doing so, you’ll be able to ease your mind and nervous system, eliminate overwhelm, and make building a dream way more doable.
How Overwhelm Stops Us
1. We feel so much pressure on ourselves already in our lives, so we find it hard to see where our dreams can fit in.
2. We’re afraid that if we start prioritizing ourselves it’s going to take away from other people, and we don’t want to let anyone down.
3. The magnitude of our successes and failures can seem really big in our minds and can feel like we are carrying a lot on our shoulders. Moving forward toward a dream can feel like a huge risk.
Overwhelm, then, is coming from the pressure, guilt and scrutiny we put on ourselves. It feels big, heavy and enormously consequential in our minds and nervous systems.
But what if we did the opposite? What if we focused on our lives in small, bite-sized pieces instead of big abstract fears and pressures?
By switching our focus to the little things, our brains don’t register overwhelm anymore. Everything still gets done, and we feel better.
How We Find Freedom in the Little Things
1. We build our dream life in baby steps, making it much easier to get started.
2. We prioritize the little things that are really important to us and eliminate the other things to make room for what matters.
3. We stop looking at failure as catastrophic and instead plan for little failures along the way. Failure is valuable, that’s how we learn. So when we plan for mistakes on the road to our dream, we can let go of the fear and pressure and turn it into a positive.
By focusing, and prioritizing the little things that matter to us, like sitting around the table and laughing while playing a board game with our children, making time every day to clear our minds through meditation, or saying no to projects and committees that we genuinely don’t want to lead, we can restructure our lives for the better.
But it doesn’t feel like we’re making massive changes and building big dreams because it’s easier than before, not harder. We have more time, not less. We’re more mentally relaxed, not scattered.
When we focus small we make the world small, simple and manageable.
We pay attention to what matters, and don’t allow all of the other stuff to hold our minds hostage. We delegate where we can, and allow ourselves to do less in order to be better.
You are doing more than enough, and prioritizing what is important to you will add to everyone’s quality of life, not take away from it.
Take a breath, and smile, as you notice that the floor is not falling out from under you when you slow down, focus in and regroup. What will happen, though, is your dreams will start to take shape!