Empowered Questions For Empowered Results
The quality of your life is a direct reflection of the quality of the questions you are asking yourself.
Anthony Robbins
Do you ever feel like you’re stuck, and no matter what you do, you seem to be stuck attracting the same kind of relationships, the same bank account balance, the same weight or the same habits you swore you’d change?
It’s frustrating, right? But we’ve all been there.
And it may seem counterintuitive, but one of the fastest ways to get unstuck, is to look at the questions you’re asking yourself.
Because when you ask a question, the answers you receive are going to be on the same frequency as the question itself.
Thomas Edison, for example, didn’t wonder, “When is this lightbulb going to work?” He was focused on the vision, asking “How can I produce a system of light that illuminates the world? What is the next step I can take?”
The question he was asking was on the same level of the result he was after.
It’s no surprise that he went on to illuminate New York City, and eventually, the world.
No matter what you want to create in your life, the quality of the question you ask is paramount.
Let’s start by looking at some disempowering questions, so you know what to avoid, and then we’ll look at the most empowering questions to put you on the path to great results.
Disempowering and Empowering Questions
1. Why
“Why” is the lowest quality question, for two reasons. Firstly, “why” tends to keep us in victim mode. When we ask “Why is this happening to me?” “Why did she say that?” “Why didn’t I get a promotion?” “Why can’t I lose weight?” we are externalizing our results and not owning the power we have over our own lives.
Secondly, questions like “Why didn’t the agent accept my book?” “Why aren’t there more single men in this town?” “Why is my latte taking so long?” we can only rely on our own intellect for answers.
“Why” questions cut off your intuition and are limited to the rational mind, the part of the mind that uses data from your past to try to “figure stuff out.”
Because the analytical part of our mind can only assimilate data from the past, when we ask “why” questions we are literally only drawing from our intellect and our past experiences. That’s why we tend to just keep recreating different versions of past results.
2. When
When is the next lowest quality question, because when we ask “when” the only answer is “it depends.”
We are generally taught to think that things happen based on situations, circumstances and conditions outside of us. “When the economy, my husband, the government, my bank account changes, then ______ can happen.”
But the only time "it” is actually going to happen depends on when I get in harmony with it. When I become it.
It’s not a matter of when something will happen to me, it’s a matter of when I become the version of myself that is in harmony with the outcome I want.
And the answer is always NOW. That’s why asking “when” is irrelevant. “When” implies that we don’t currently have it, so we’re just reiterating what we lack, and we create more lack.
We can’t create what we want by focusing our attention on the fact that we don’t yet have it.
3. What
This is the most empowered question we can ask. "What" questions connect you not only to your own creative intelligence, they also open you up to receive inspired ideas from infinite intelligence.
This is how Thomas Edison sourced his ideas to make the incandescent bulb. He called it the “Land of the Solution.”
In an infinite universe, you can’t have a question without the answer also existing. For every problem there is a solution. You just have to make it welcome.
The way to make solutions welcome is by asking “What can I do to take a step toward my vision today?” or “What step can I take today to become a New York times best-selling author?” or “What can I do to get paid to travel the world?”
This is your doorway to the “Land of the Solution” where you will get the quality of answers that can move the needle forward on your vision.
4. Who
The other most empowered question is “who.” As in, “Who do I need to BE today that is a match to the person in my vision?”
“What qualities does the person in my vision live from, and who do I need to be now that is a match to the vision I am holding in mind?”
When you are thinking, feeling and taking action as the version of yourself that already has the vision, you become a match to it.
The reason why the majority of people who win the lottery go broke shortly after is because they don’t get in harmony with managing that amount of money.
They don’t think, feel and act as the versions of themselves that are deserving, capable and in harmony with wealth. Because they still see themselves as who they were before, they recreate the same results.
Ways to Shift from Disempowered (condition-driven questions) to Empowered Thinking (vision-driven questions):
Instead of asking “Why is this happening?" ask “What can I do now...?”
Instead of wondering “When is this going to work out or why is this taking so long?” ask “Who do I need to BE today and what step can I take now to serve my vision?”
Instead of thinking “I can't do this because…” ask “What can I do from where I am with what I do have to move forward?”
By making these simple yet powerful changes, you are welcoming in a completely different solution and you’ll become a match to the results you would really love.